Builds your relationship map
From your contacts, calendar and other sources you choose—the people you value, how you know them, and what you have shared.
Grow close to your people
A little help remembering, reaching out, and making time for the relationships that matter.
The Gardener lives in WhatsApp: a quiet weekly note about the people who matter, and someone to message whenever a person comes to mind. It remembers the context and notices when a relationship is drifting—no new app, no new inbox.
You choose whom to contact and what to say. We never write messages for you, and nothing is sent without you. All of your data is kept securely in your own private vault.
The Gardener
online
Only you and the Gardener see this.
Two people have been on my mind. Sarah M. — it's been eight months. Andrew was waiting to hear how your week went.
09:00Sarah — what's going on with her?
09:04New job in March. You'd wanted to ask how the first months went. A Tuesday evening call might suit.
09:04Right. I'll ring her tonight.
09:05The Gardener is typing
Message
Good relationships rarely end. They simply drift.
We all have people we genuinely value—friends, former colleagues, mentors, clients and neighbours—whom we mean to stay close to. Then life gets busy, months pass, and we remember to call too late.
Social Gardener reduces the inertia: remembering, deciding whom to contact, finding a natural reason and taking the first step.
How it works
It lives in WhatsApp. No new app, no new inbox.
You already talk to your people on WhatsApp. The Gardener simply joins you there.
- 01
A quiet note on WhatsApp
Once a week, the Gardener sends a short note with two or three people worth thinking about—matched to your real capacity, never an inbox of obligations.
- 02
Ask whenever someone comes to mind
Message the Gardener like a friend with a good memory: what did we last talk about, what’s going on in their life, is it time for a proper catch-up?
- 03
Reach out in your own words
Message, call or meet—you decide. The Gardener never writes messages for you, so everything you send is genuinely yours.
The weekly review
A few suggestions, with the reasoning shown.
Someone worth reconnecting with
Sarah M.
ReviveYou haven’t spoken for eight months, and you previously wanted to hear how her new job was going.
- Suggested approach
- Give her a call next Tuesday evening when you have some spare time?
- Conversation thread
- Ask what has surprised her most about the move
ConnectTry another approachNot this week
- Protect
- Look after a relationship you already value.
- Deepen
- Create space for greater mutual understanding.
- Revive
- Reconnect before a valued relationship quietly disappears.
- Sustain
- A light, occasional touch is enough to stay in each other's world.
Quiet work, done in the background.
Learns your intent
Which relationships to protect, deepen, revive or simply sustain—and how often feels natural. It follows your lead.
Recommends who, why now and how
A message, call, coffee, dinner or introduction—always with its reason shown, so you can judge it rather than simply obey it.
Finds a natural conversation thread
From shared history, interests, commitments or advice worth seeking—so getting in touch never feels hollow.
Designed for relationships, not networking
Human, not transactional
Start with people you genuinely value. Social Gardener helps you show up with care, context and genuine attention.
Attention, not quotas
Suggestions respect your capacity. The aim is to reduce unconscious drift, not to manufacture outreach.
Private, with agency
Your data helps you remember and choose. Social Gardener never contacts anyone autonomously—you decide whom to contact and what to say.
No ghostwriting. Ever.
We will never write messages for you. The Gardener offers memory and gentle prompts; the words, care and tone are always yours—so the people you love know it’s really you.
Privacy
Your relationships are nobody else’s business.
Social Gardener is designed to know enough about your relationships to be genuinely useful — while keeping that knowledge private to you. Your relationship data is protected, kept separate from other users, and used only to provide the service to you. We don’t sell it, use it for advertising, or use your private relationship data to train general-purpose AI models.
Don’t let friendships go to seed.
Join the early-access programme and help shape a more thoughtful way to sustain the relationships that matter.